If these nine habits are carried out couples will have much more tranquility and fullness, so the monotony does not invade your relationship.
It is important that you acquire certain habits as a couple and today we will let you know the nine habits of healthy marriage relationships.
A lot of problems are caused because people do not know how to effectively communicate how they feel, how they think and what’s causing the problem. I know a lot of people who are couples, but don’t feel comfortable telling each other how they feel.
Maybe because they have experienced some rocky relationship in the past. Effective communication demands patience, understand and love. The will power to listen to your spouse not minding there point of view.
This is something that I’ve noticed in my life, you can find lots of people who struggle with forgiveness. As long as you understand your spouse is not perfect and is a work in progress then you can easily forgive.
Being able to forgive is the foundation of a long lasting relationship. And when you forgive let it come from your heart, not just saying that you apologized, but forgiveness, “like I forgive you, I’m not going to do it again, I am sorry I feel bad” that comes a lot with tip number three.
When you understand the person and how they feel it becomes easier to forgive them. Now understanding is really difficult, you need to have a big heart and openness to want to understand someone else in their situation.
The empathy and the sympathy to know how someone else feels and understanding their situation.
Now this is a big one and I’ve actually had some struggle with this among some of my friends, because they’ll go out and do things and it’s hard for me to respect them through their actions.
But I can tell you that friends, I do respect, I look up to them it’s like wow that’s a great quality that I think you have and I would like to have that, just by respecting them understanding that they’re not below you that are with you. Sometimes when you start to look down at people you start to disrespect them.
Appreciation can happen simultaneously in a relationship, say I appreciate you let’s spend 30 minutes together watching the sunset. I appreciate you, I wrote you a little note, when I thought of you or here’s a small gift.
When I was on vacation just appreciating them and sometimes, you can even vocally tell someone “hey I appreciate that you’re in my life” and that helps out a lot.
#6. Team Work:
Team work is to look at situations not that it’s me versus you, it is us versus the problem, there are some couples who see themselves as competition. If there is a slight misunderstanding, it feels like a war zone, they start attacking each other’s personal qualities and that’s the problem.
In the first place, if they could join together and understand that it’s not your fault, it’s not my fault, it’s both of our faults. What can we do to solve this problem? This will solve so many relationship problems just coming together as a team.
Honesty comes first, there’s a lot of times in life, you look back and go “man it was really easy to lie there” but when it comes down to it building a happy marriage.
If you want a short term relationship, yeah go ahead and lie, but if you’re honest to your spouse, they’ll respect and understand you more.
It’s another great foundation habit of a great relationship. If you don’t feel comfortable being honest to your spouse there might be some psychological abuse or something else going on that is making that relationship unsteady.
#8. Make Time For Each other:
Now this is something I struggled with and I think a lot of entrepreneurs might struggle with in relationships specifically because they love to work.
I’m almost like a workaholic, I love working something about me specifically, is that I don’t want to spend my time doing meaningless things.
So I look at things and I value my time really high and sometimes, if I’m just out with my wife and we’re not having a great time, I feel like I could be making five or ten thousand more dollars a month, if I spent that time on my business
But I also look at the relationship view of it and I’m like you know this relationship is a great thing in my life. If I didn’t have it, I might not want to work as hard.
That’s something that you’ve got a balance and you’ve got to be self-aware to understand what percent of your life, do you want to work and what percent of your life do you want to share with your spouse?
#9: Laugh A Lot:
There are a ton of psychological benefits to laughing. Laughter relaxes the muscles and relieve stress and if you can build a habit to spend time with family and friends more frequently, it can build up healthy family bond.
I literally feel more charismatic and it’s not even me that has changed it’s them, it’s the people that I’m around they make me feel more charismatic, they make me feel like it’s okay to laugh, it’s okay to be myself.
If you’re reading this article right now, and you feel your marriage isn’t what it used to be… and maybe it’s so bad, that you feel like your world is falling apart. You feel like all the passion, the love, and romance have completely faded.
You feel like you and your partner can’t stop yelling at each other.
And maybe you feel that there’s almost nothing you can do to save your marriage, no matter how hard you try.
But you’re wrong.
You CAN save your marriage — even if your spouse says that they want a divorce.
You CAN rebuild that passion you felt for one another when you first kissed. And you can bring back that love and devotion you felt for one another when both of you said, “I love you” for the first time.
If you feel like your marriage is worth fighting for, then do yourself a favor and watch this quick video that will teach you everything you need to know about salvaging the most important thing in the world: