4 Ways a Husband Can Unknowingly Break His Wife’s Heart

4 Ways a Husband Can Unknowingly Break His Wife’s Heart

Effective and healthy communication is vital to a happy marriage, but  it takes work. Unknowingly out of anger couples tend to use careless words and actions, which inadvertently cause hurt and pain in the marriage. We get caught in this negative spiral expecting the worst from each other and every discussion becomes a fight.

So, how can you protect yourself from this deadly marriage trap?

Husbands, These are the 4 ways you can unknowingly break your wife’s

1. Constantly Tearing Her Down With Harsh Words:

This is a silent marriage killer, and usually stems from bad communication habits that develop over time in marriage. We should learn to discipline our tongue to never speak harshly to our spouse or talk rudely about our them – Even if we feel they have wronged us.

We must make it a habit to treat each other with respect both in and out of the walls of our home. Harsh words creates giant boundary between us and
make us feel unloved and insignificant.

“The tone of your words becomes the tone of your marriage”.

If you find yourself struggling with this, I highly suggest both couple invest time in working on their communication in your marriage.

2. Too Busy For a Meaningful Conversion With Her:

Many men that find themselves in this ugly situation, some say they are too busy with work or ran out of words for the day. However meaningful
communication is very important to your wife and you need to adjust your schedule and spend more time with your wife.

Whenever she asks about your day, she’s only trying to connect with you and not to interrogate you. She wants to ease the burden or stress you must have experienced during this period.

So, when she asks you about your day, don’t just give a monosyllable answer “It was FINE” and slide in front of the TV with a Coke and corn chips. Engage with her.

Remember she is your wife, there is no point in being over protective of yourself. Open up and speak what’s on your heart. Take time to listen as she tells you what’s going on with her.

This daily intimate conversation goes a long way to build your marriage and have a better understanding of what’s going on in each other’s lives. Give her your BEST time and attention first.

3. Making plans without saying a word to her first.

I have seen a lot of couples who struggle with this issue, and it comes down to one symptom “Pride”. You’ll hear some men say, “Well, I’m a grown man. Why must i ask my wife, if I can go somewhere.”

As insignificant as it maybe. This is very crucial to your wife, it lets her know you respect her thoughts and opinions in ALL matters. Sometimes it’s easy as saying “Honey, some of the guys are wanting to get together and watch the game this Wednesday night. Do you care if I go?”.

99% of the time, she’ll say yes, “Sure. Go ahead,” but sometimes if you have an agenda or planned something out, she’ll only remind you.

These shows you are giving her the love and respect she deserves by consulting with her first, before making your own plans, and this will keep your marriage strong.

4. Fulfilling your own sexual fantasy by using porn:

Porn is destroying many marriages today. There have been several reports from wives who are broken-hearted after finding out that their husband has been watching porn.

Let me say this in crystal clear words – Porn is a monster that can easily breaks and destroys the bound in any marriage. It will only take the mercy and grace of God for it to be extinguished. It’s like an addictive drug you always want more and more…

Aside that, it makes you think your wife is less desirable and less sexually fulfilling. When you become hooked to porn, you eventually stop initiating sex with your wife and sometimes satisfy yourself or seek help somewhere else.

Husbands, if you’re are currently struggling with this habit, please, know that you are not alone in this situation. But if you don’t seek for help fast it can easily tear down you and your marriage apart.

Try not to judge yourself, we all make mistakes, let your wife know what you are passing through and she can be a great help to you by providing encouragement and accountability in this process of healing.

As a believer, i recommend you pray as a family and commit everything to God. The more we guard our words and actions, the better our marriage will thrive.

Husbands, take a moment and think about each of these four factors and do your very best to make the adjustments needed. When you do this, your wife will feel loved and respected by you, and your marriage will soar.

Psychologists discovers:

Psychologists have discovered that the more a man thinks about you when you’re not around. The more obsessed with you he becomes. And the deeper in love with you he feels.

And when a man pulls away…

And acts distant or doubtful about your relationship. It’s because he’s become DISTRACTED. He’s not thinking about you throughout the day as much as he used to causing his feelings to start to fade.

And doubt to set in.

That’s why the key to restoring the balance in your relationship. Has nothing to do with being the best partner you can be. And everything to do with making sure he’s thinking about you when you’re not around.

So, take the steps and be willing to change what’s not working.

How will you take action to save the marriage?

You see, the real damage is done when one person needs and expects something to change, but the other person resists making any change.

The other person who wants the change becomes more and more frustrated.

This leads to a pattern where one spouse suddenly announces that the marriage is over, and the other spouse is unaware that there even was a problem.

This is why you need to help get and resources from experts.

If others have been helped, you can be too.

Experts with a great deal more perspective and experience can be a real help in these situations.

Because what got you into trouble will not get you out of trouble.

What caused the marriage to hit the rocks will not help you get it back on track.

That requires a new perspective… and you can get that fresh pair of eyes looking at your marriage, and advice to help right here…

This the very program that save your marriage!

All the best.


  1. Why is it always shown that men are at fault? What about the other side doing similar things?

  2. You say there are several reports of women finding out & being broken hearted. This is an epidemic & this statement is SO under exaggerated & being broken-hearted is just scratching the surface of the depth of pain. Porn not only destroys a marriage but crushes the soul of the woman (& man) & the children too.

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