This is the last thing we want to think about when it comes to our relationships. It’s heartbreaking, devastating, and not an easy thing to deal with.
A lot of people think that when someone is cheating it is primarily physical, but there are actually other ways you can cheat on your significant other which aren’t necessarily physical.
Today, we’re going to talk about how to tell if your partner is doing that kind of cheating, called an “emotional affair”.
But first, we have to determine what exactly an emotional affair is. How does it differ from a regular affair? Well, the best way we can describe it is to use PSYCHOLOGY TODAY’S explanation.
They say that “Emotional infidelity refers to the behavior that one partner engages in which fosters emotional intimacy in the here-and-now with someone else, and sometimes promotes the possibility of sexual intimacy in the future.
Many people maintain secret or semi-secret friendships when there is a clear mutual interest or attraction, while others may not be interested, but encourage others’ interest in them for the sake of boosting their own ego or distracting themselves from a sense of boredom with their partner.”
Emotional cheating is just as bad as physical cheating. In some aspects, emotional cheating can be worse than physical cheating.
This is because the emotional bond you have with someone is special and cannot be replaced, and having your significant other, share that emotional bond with another person can be more heartbreaking than physically cheating.
Cheating is cheating, and whether it’s done physically or emotionally, it all comes down to the same thing. If you think you know someone who you suspect might be having an emotional affair, or if you suspect that your own partner may be having one, here are some signs to look for.
Sign #1. Your Partner Is Being Sneaky:
If your partner is being extremely secretive and is making a conscious effort to avoid being seen on their phone or computer, it could be a sign that they are having an emotional affair.
If your significant other suddenly adds or changes a password on his or her cell phone, or suddenly becomes very possessive of electronic items like a cell phone or computer, it could mean that he or she is hiding something from you that they don’t want you to see.
Sign #2. Your Significant Other Is Uncharacteristically Quiet:
If you notice that your partner is being distant and quiet as if they have lost interest in you, try to find out why.
It’s entirely possible that your partner may be having a bad day or week and that’s why they’re being quiet, but if this behavior persists for weeks to months, it could mean that they have developed a connection or interest with someone else and are ignoring you in the process.
Sign #3. Your Husband Keeps Mentioning This Girl:
A partner who is having an emotional affair may actually mention his or her new partner to you as a way to act inconspicuous.
If you notice your partner has been bringing up the name of a friend more often than usual in normal conversation, be wary and look for other signs that he or she may be having an emotional affair.
Sign #4. Your Partner Is Being Really Nagy:
If your partner starts criticizing you on a regular basis or even starts comparing you to other people, it could be a sign that they are having some type of an emotional affair.
It’s possible that your partner could be seeing better qualities in a different person and are subconsciously comparing that person to you.
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Sign #5. Your Partner Stops Coming Home At Night:
If your significant other starts spending longer hours at work or working late into the night, you should consider it a red flag. It’s even more of a red flag if he or she starts blowing you off after you’ve made solid plans.
If your partner continuously blows you off with excuses that don’t really make sense, it could be a sign that he or she is cheating.
Sign #6. Your Significant other Stops Wanting To Get Intimate:
Being intimate with your partner is extremely important in a relationship. If you start to notice that your significant other doesn’t seem interested in being intimate with you, it could mean that he or she is getting it somewhere else.
If you also notice that your partner doesn’t act the same towards you physically when you are intimate, you may be in some trouble.
Sign #7. Your Partner Uses More Social Media Than Usual:
Social media can be a headache for a relationship that isn’t secure. If you think your partner may be having some kind of an emotional affair with another person, try to notice any new trends they may have on social media.
For example, if your partner has never been very active on social media but starts to use it frequently, it should raise some suspicions.
Sign #8. Your Partner Changes Her Extracurricular Activities:
You know your partner better than anyone else, so try to look out for any changes in their behavior, including their interests and their extracurricular activities.
When you and your partner fight and he or she starts pointing out things in the relationship that were never mentioned before, this could be another major red flag.
This could imply that he or she has been discussing your relationship issues with other people.
Sign #9. Your Partner Starts To Put More Effort Into How They Look:
When you start to notice that your partner seems to be putting more effort into their appearance, it could be a bad sign (especially if your partner is exhibiting any of the other signs on this list).
Don’t jump to conclusions right away, but if you notice that your partner is dressing nicer and looking better when he or she goes out, something may be up.
Sign #10. Your Significant Other Stops Telling You Their Important Thoughts:
Stuff like dreams, hopes, fears, if your partner stops telling you about these things it might be because they’re telling someone else. To really determine this, ask them probing questions about how they are.
If you find they have one word answers or generally don’t answer, then that might be a red flag.
Also, listen to them when they talk to other people. If they share big events in their lives before they share it with you, then you might be losing them to someone else.
Sign 11. Your Partner Talks About His Relationship In Uncertain Terms:
Remember when you and your significant other use to talk about moving in together, getting married, your kid’s names and which retirement home you’d like to live in?
That’s certainly very nice, and have you noticed that recently they don’t commit as much to that kind of talk? They don’t use permanent language, they avoid discussions about the future.
If they do, then they might be discussing the possibility of ending their relationship with someone else. DAVID MCFADDEN, a marriage and family therapist in Hanover Park, Illinois, says this about this phenomenon:
“If you see a definite pattern to this change in language and your instincts tell you something may be going on, then it’s definitely time to check in with them,”
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